
The question many women have is: How do you tell the difference between a primal sexual attraction and a desire for romantic involvement? What does it look like when a man wants you physically, and how is it different from when a man wants everything from you and the physical aspect is just a single aspect?
Here's some ways you can tell whether that cute guy has developed feelings for you (or knows that chances are good that he will), and how to avoid a guy that only wants…well…one thing that has nothing to do with romance.
He Listens When You're Speaking
If a guy cares about your opinion and knows that he'll want you around for a while, he'll be concerned about being a good listener.
It isn't hard to tell whether or not a guy is paying attention when you're talking; if he cuts you off and starts talking about someone else, guess what? He sucks at listening and probably isn't that into you. If he looks you in the eyes and asks questions about what you are actually saying, you have a potential winner on your hands.
He Takes You Out on Actual Dates
A guy can show his respect and good intentions by inviting you on real dates that are now viewed as somewhat old-fashioned. Examples are going to see a movie, a sit-down mean in a nice restaurant, etc.
If a guy tries to skip right to the sex, you know he has no romantic interest in you and has poor intentions. You'll know this is what he's trying to do if he only proposes your place or his as potential meeting spots.
He Remembers What You Like And What You Don't
If he ever has to order for you at a restaurant, he'll know exactly what to tell the server based on past dates with you. He'll recall that time you specifically requested no walnuts in that salad because you're allergic, or when you requested no onions on something because you hate onions, etc.
Maybe he's picking out a movie for the two of you and knows to invite you to a new one that's out starring your favorite actor or actress. He knows that they are your favorite because you were discussing movies on your first date.
It seems silly, but the little things are very important and telling in dating relationships. A guy that only wants sex from you won't bother to listen or care about things like this. A guy that wants to know you better and cares about who you really are will care.
He Talks About You to People in His Life
If your guy doesn't intend on you being in his life for a decent amount of time, and already knows that his desires for you stop and start with sex and that's it, then he definitely has no plans to introduce you to anyone in his life. Therefore, he won't be mentioning you to anyone either.
On the other hand, when a guy is taken with you and infatuated on a deeper level, he cannot help but bring you up in conversations he has.
You'll be able to tell that he was talking about you when you meet his friends, roommates, coworkers, etc., and they already know tidbits and facts about you. Often, they will actually say that your guy has told them a lot about you, etc.
He Cares About the Opinions of Your Friends and Family
If he is genuinely concerned with whether or not members of your inner circle like him, this is a good sign that has romantic intentions. He will definitely want your friends, especially your best friend, to approve of him because he wants to be in your life for more than just a few weeks.
Another way to gauge this is by seeing how nervous he gets before he meets your family for the first time. Most of the time, a guy who does not have romantic feelings or intentions will not even want to meet your family and likely won't agree to it.
He's Willing to Adjust His Life
If your guy works very hard and has a very busy schedule every week, it may seem impossible for you see him or fit into his life. Don't fret; the guy who feels romantic feelings for you will always adjust his schedule and move things around if it means he can see you.
You will probably recall situations in which you would have done whatever you could to make it possible to spend time with a special person, and other situations in which you weren't willing to make any adjustments. The difference is staggering, so just determine which category you're placed into in his life.
He's Affectionate Towards You, Even While Sleeping
How a man sleeps next to you can say so much. First of all, if he doesn't even sleep at your place after you've been intimate and wants to leave, that's a very bad sign. There's no romance there. If the two of you are at his place and he actually requests that you leave, this is even worse.
In this sleeping/bedroom scenario, just note how far away or how close he sleep to you and the level of physical contact that occurs while he's actually asleep or half-asleep. If you wake up and smile because he's wrapped one or both of his arms around you in a warm embrace and is still asleep, enjoy the moment. Even his subconscious knows it: he has intense romantic feelings for you.